Week 1: What Happened to Sex?

Discussion Questions

1. Why do you think that our definition of sex is so limited? What can we do to help couples embrace that sex in marriage is about more than just intercourse?
2. God made you to experience pleasure. Have you heard that message consistently in the marriage or sex advice you have gotten? Has one spouse’s pleasure or sexual needs been prioritized over the other?
3. When sex is difficult, it’s easy to feel like a failure. What are some positive truths couples can use to combat those feelings?
4. Over the years, Sheila and her team have realized that for many couples, all the good advice in the world means nothing if they’re still holding onto harmful teachings. Did this surprise you, that it’s not just enough to give good advice?
5. What do you think of the idea of evidence-based treatments for marriage and sex problems in the church? Is it necessary?
6. Our hope and prayer as you go through this book study is that you are (a) set free from harmful teachings or beliefs that you may have been taught, or (b) feel more equipped to help change the conversation around sex to something more healthy than what it has been in the church. What are your goals for this study?